SELF-HYPNOSIS AND PROPER GOAL SETTING
Posted: Thu Jan 18, 2007 22:50
Since the question on this subject a lot, I decided to give it a separate topic.
As for self-hypnosis, a lot depends on under what Sauce (the Condition, Situation, Setting, Witnesses) that You do. TRANS can be disposed before, after, and during hover, "Before" and "after" can and should be used for self-hypnosis, "during" is usually applied to heterogenote (that is, with the hypnotist), working with the TRANS in the TRANS – is the aerobatics (which You can learn regularly). Therefore, before a session, tell yourself whatever you need, as you should imagine the end result and can fill up on your health, and you Wake up, immediately do a positive affirmation that this was helpful to You in achieving your goals, you can put it on paper and put next to him (not to forget).
It is also important that approval for self-hypnosis met the criteria for well-formed the (developed under the NLP), and had the correct form:
1. Must be in the affirmative, not in the negative form, i.e. it should say what You want, not what You don't want ("quit", for example, is also negative wording);
- what do I want? (which personally I need this?)
- that I want to change right now? (which personally I need this?)
- what result I want to achieve? (which personally I need this?)
- what I want to achieve? (which personally I need this?)
- I would like to change? (which personally I need this?)
- I would like to do differently? (which personally I need this?)
- what would I like to do? (which personally I need this?)
- do I mind?. (for what I personally need?)
- which is what I imagine? (for what I personally need?)
If You can't answer the question in brackets, then what You have outlined is not a goal but, at best, is an intermediate goal to achieve some (what?) goal. If You can't answer the question in parentheses for the reason that it satisfies the condition "I personally (that is, of course, You)", it means it also may not be Your purpose (why You need someone else's goal?).
2. Have a specific, precise result (in what situations You would like it to have, but some not) – adjust your aim with the context;
- what can cause me the intended result?
- the circumstances in which achieving this result will do me?
- in what circumstances do I use this result?
when I may be tempted to use this result?
- when would be better for this to happen?
- how long do I would like to use the result?
- where would be better for this to happen?
- do I want that in any relationship, any circumstance?
- next to whom I would like to be?
- in what circumstances the intended result will not bring me any good?
- are there any other circumstances in which the intended result can still prove useful?
- do I want it to always appear, in all areas of my life?
- in what circumstances this will be inappropriate?
3. Express your purpose in sensory categories by formulating a result that can be felt and measured all the senses (what would you like to feel in these situations instead of what you felt before);
- how do I know if have reached your goal?
- I will let you know about it?
- what will I see, hear and feel when you reach your goal?
- gives me the pleasure?
then what can see, hear and feel people around me?
4. The result should be achievable by yourself and not depend on other people;
- what will I do to achieve this?
- did I before yourself to achieve anything similar?
- if I want to do, or want to have that done? (i.e. do You have motivation?)
- whether and in what ways the similarities between this case and the events of the past?
- can something prevent me to achieve this goal?
- will I be able to complete all the necessary changes?
- do I need someone else's help?
- does the achievement of the result only from me or from someone else?
- what exactly can be my personal impact?
- to what extent I manage the achievement of results?
- what can I do right now?
5. The result should be attainable in specific (preferably not more than 3 months) period of time (longer periods must be split into short, specific intermediate result in each). Realistically assess the consequences of achieving your goal;
- what happens when I reach my goal? (what will I find?)
- what will happen when I achieve my goal? (what can I lose?)
- what will happen if I reach my goal? (why do I think this result is important?)
- what happens if I reach my goal? (what side effect can subconsciously disturb me achieve this?)
6. Choose targets that deserve their achievements, and are timely. Timeliness: "it" is what You need right now, not past or future;
- whether the result of the efforts that will have to spend on achieving it?
- I will help achieving this result in other aspects of my life?
- will this lead to the emergence of new goals?
- this will prove whether the achievement of this result, that You deserve the best in this life?
7. When setting goals during the session, the result should be formulated in the perfect form (the Installation must indicate that in real time You already meet that claim in your installation), as addressed to the right hemisphere, which lacks the (purely functional) the past and the future, but only "here and now". The result should be formulated in terms of "to be", "have", not "want" (you want to have or to want?), "to do" ("you can't tell God how he must for You to comply with Your request").
It is not always possible to immediately respond to all written questions, but it is very important to ask yourself when thinking about your next goal. Possible interesting answers or some insight comes to You during a session. Don't focus on them, not to leave the special state. Thank your subconscious and give yourself a task to recall and write down the idea after a session. It's always before a session put close Notepad and pencil.
Another very important rule for self-hypnosis – a state of joyful anticipation and waiting for the result, Instead of questioning soul-searching – "working... not working..." (it seems as if You planted a seed, and every day it dug up to see how it grows), you literally need to seek out the smallest of positive changes in myself (and enjoy them), confirming the efficiency of Your work (watering and love your seed).
There is another very serious aspect when working with goals. The fact that the excessive concentration (hobby) for any purpose, in fact, is the main obstacle to its achievement. So I would advise to see (to choose) from such systems as the Simoron (Simoron first owner (Peter Burlan), Himself a magician (Gurangov and Dolohov)) - for optimists and realists, and Transerfing realnosti (Vadim Zeland) - for pessimists and "rabid skeptics." There is just this problem can be overcome. Yet there was, finally, a Russian translation of a book on the Sedona method: it only came Out what, a small print run. You can order it in online shops, to find in bookstores Dvoskin City: Sedona Method; lane. from English. E. A. Bakuleva. - Mn.: "Potpourri", 2006. - 416 p. Recommended!
Now, in Cuba (in my edition) http://www.koob.ru/dwoskin/sedona_method
Good Luck Running!
By the way, I recommend to watch the movie "Route 60". There are lots of great examples of how important it is to accurately articulate their wishes.
By the way, what do you want???
Psychologists, for example, believe that the happiness of man should be quite a bit:
1. Day-to-day to feel reliability and safety.
2. To get attention and share it with others.
3. To feel in control of the events of his life.
4. To feel some tension and excitement from life, to avoid boredom.
5. Sometimes get different pleasures and to feel that life is a pleasure.
6. To have a close intimate relationship, at least with one person.
7. To feel their connection and affiliation with a certain community.
8. To have the time and the place for solitude.
9. To have the respect and recognition of dignity.
10. To feel some competence and have certain achievements.
One woman worked for many years in a hospice. Her duty - the relief of dying patients. Thus, she literally was with them the last days and hours. From my observations, she made up a rating of main regrets people approached the edge of life
The 5 most common regrets of the dying:
1. I regret that I didn't have the courage to live a life that is right for me, not the life expected of me by others.
This is the most common regret among men. When people realize that their life is almost over, they can look back and easily see which of their dreams were not realized. Most people hardly tried to fulfill even half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was only by choice that they did or did not do. It is very important to try to implement at least some of your basic desires in life. From the moment when you lose your health, it is too late to do something. Health brings the freedom that very few realize, until they lose it.
2. I'm sorry I worked so hard.
The feeling was every male patient. They missed their youth and in their relationships. Some women also expressed this regret. But since most of them were of the older generation, they mostly did not earn money for the family. All of the men deeply regretted that he spent most of his life on the monotonous work for getting livelihood. By simplifying your lifestyle, you can reduce the requirements of the income that you think you need. Creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new possibilities.
3. I'm sorry that I didn't have the courage to Express your feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to maintain certain relationships with others. As a result, they accepted a mediocre existence and never became what they would like to see yourself. The emergence of many diseases was associated with experiencing feelings of bitterness and resentment. We can't control the reactions of others. Although initially people may react to changes you make in the relationship, is not desirable way for you, in the end it raises the relationship to a new healthier level. Best one way or another to eliminate unhealthy relationships from your life.
4. I'm sorry I haven't been in touch with their friends.
Often these people do not even realize all of the benefits of maintaining contact with their old friends until their deaths remained a few weeks, and have not always been able to find them. Many were so caught up in their own lives that allowed their friendship for many years to pass by them. There were many deep regrets about the fact that their friendship was not given much time and effort, which this friendship deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they die. Any person that leads an active lifestyle, tend to underestimate the value of friendships. But when you stand on the threshold of death, the material side of life lose their meaning. Of course, people want their financial Affairs were in the greatest possible order. But no money and no status to maintain ultimately its value. They want to bring some benefit to someone you love. But usually they are already too sick and tired to cope with this problem.
5. I'm sorry that I'm not allowed(a) to be more happy.
This kind of regret was surprisingly common. Many do not fully understand that their happiness is a matter of choice. They were subordinated to the habits and established ideas. They were in captivity ‘comfort’ traditional way of life. Because of fear of change they pretend to others and to ourselves that were satisfied with their lives.
According to the materials of the Internet