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WHY ADVANCED YOUTH NO LONGER BUYS a CAR AND APARTMENT

The traditional measure of success — their own apartment and a car — is no longer relevant. An increasing number of young people around the world don't want to buy them.

Numerous studies of Western experts show that the generation of the so-called "Millennials," i.e., people who are now 30-35 years old, has rarely buy houses and even fewer cars. In fact, they don't do super expensive purchases at all. Except for iPhones, of course.

In America, people under the age of 35 years is generally called "generation of renters". Why is this happening? Some sociologists believe that this is due to the fact that today's youth have too many financial disasters. But because people are simply afraid to take a "serious" loans.

But even this is not important. The fact that the generation of young people today different from the generation of his fathers other values.

The youth of today redefines the notion of success. If previously successful people were those who owned their own housing and a car, it is a special honor those who had invested in the experience and impressions: travelers, adventurers, startups.

Young people deliberately refuse to buy real estate, and even furniture, preferring to rent them. The meaning is that now they don't want prosperity and stability, flexible schedule, financial and geographical independence.

Material things just cease to be interested in people. Why own a car in the US, if you have Uber or Lyft? This is, in fact, a private car with driver. And use the Uber services are not more expensive than owning your own car.

Why buy a house in a beautiful location and go there for a vacation, if you can get accommodation through Airbnb in any corner of the planet? You do not have to pay rent or buy a property in a favorite country. Same thing with real estate in his hometown. First, you don't know how long you will live where you live. Secondly, why take a mortgage for 40 years, if you can accept that will spend his whole life in rented accommodation? In the end, the work you are most likely in the next few years will change, and if you are renting, then there is nothing stopping you to move closer to the office. Forbes reports that today's young Americans change jobs on average every three years.

The concept of owning stuff is no longer relevant.

Atlantic columnist James Hamblin explains the phenomenon this way: "Over the last ten years psychologists have spent an enormous amount of research proving that from the point of view of happiness and sense of well-being is much more profitable to spend money on new experiences, not new things. It brings more joy."

These theses are confirmed by the journal Psychological Science.

Here are excerpts from the article GAMBLIN:

"It turns out people don't want to hear stories about where you bought the house. They want to hear how wonderful you spent the weekend". Amit Kumar, doctoral student at Cornell University.
"Even bad experiences end up becoming a great story." James Hamblin.
"Social interaction between people is crucial in the question whether they are happy or not. So you have to talk to other people and have many friends. Of course, others will be nicer to hear about how you went on a crazy journey or about how you spent a year in the wild country, and not about how many apartments did you have time to buy". Amir Kumar.

There's something else. The fact that the things we own, especially if they are very expensive, forcing us to worry about their condition. Buy a car — and you'll wince every time the window is triggered someone's alarm. Buy a house, navisite it expensive equipment — and you will fear robbery. Not to mention the fact that cars are scratched, beat, and ultrabaroque TVs tend to fail after a year of operation. Received you experience one you will not be taken away.

Our parents were not able to travel as cheaply and as often as we do. They have not had the opportunity to have fun as we are now having fun. It was not easy to start a new business like us. So they invested in houses and cars, and we do that already don't want to. In the end, any of our purchase, if it's not a house or apartment, will depreciate over time. And if you think about how quickly the crisis depreciates the property, it gets more obvious.

Therefore, we also recommend that you invest in experience: it does not depreciate, and it's impossible to steal.

o ye of little faith Most of you are those who pray more than others,and think from them
more than others this is.For they do not understand what you believe.Like a beggar
what else is not able,humbly pray for the fulfillment of their desires.That clan
Chita you God? Or do you think,was It a mistake by sending you what you have to teach
Want it as a mistake that He should fix? It means understanding your God.
Why It is called God then why believe in Him and pray to Him, why?
You do not know what clanmates.And little faith you true I Say to you that to be of little faith,worse than not to believe at all.For denying to God will come.
Because no matter what direction you went,still to the ocean will be released.But if
weak your faith,then you're not going anywhere,just from side-to-side sway.
Whom to listen and whom to worship, you go to the temple?And who are the most revered people
it? The scribes? The Pharisees? The chief priests? All,how many of them didn't came before
Me are thieves and robbers and worse.For it is not bread and your gold stolen,
but your life itself.With his lips and tongue revere God,but their heart is far from
It is.And like whitewashed tombs,which outwardly appear beautiful
ment,but are within full of dead men's bones and all uncleanliness. And shut those liceme
ry the Kingdom of heaven against men: for they will not include and although the sign is not
allow.And I love that people called them;the Teacher!Teacher! And you don't call
their teachers.They are blind leaders of the blind and if the blind lead the blind,both
shall fall into the pit.And for centuries they hide the keys to true knowledge and replace them
half-truths,which derajat in garments of Truth,and otorgo it more dangerous and frightening
what is a lie.
God is not far from each of us,but you must not think that you will find It in the OPI
the attractive sledge or statues received the image from the art and thought of man.
For then will worship the creature rather than the Creator.God is not man-made
temples lives and IT does not require service of human hands,for no needs not
experiencing.The heaven is His throne and earth is His footstool.
Ask and it shall be given you;seek and you will find;knock and the door will be opened,and the Father of Heaven
tion will give the Holy spirit to those who ask Him.And not the fake treasure ask,not land
goods ask the Father in Heaven,as sinners ask,but one;to direct
mi made the paths leading into the Kingdom,that you have seen the Almighty in life
of his earthly.For if you do not see God in life,will not see and after. I wish
to give you faith in the existence of the Kingdom of God. Where everything comes to be.
Noah joy and bliss,that faith that you have lit the unquenchable fire of desire
find and receive It. To believe the sweetness of immature carrots to eat.
Check as-Honey to drink.Therefore, not only to believe,but check for yourself,obras
ti and learn that what I call you,and what know,to believe is not necessary
the need.If your faith is only a crutch for the disabled-not much use in it.
I give this crutch to the patient not to he all his life with him on land
Le lame,but to become healthy,and therefore know the Holy spirit and entered in
The Kingdom of God during his life on earth.For the Kingdom of heaven is always here,but
you don't know how to get into it.And the sky,which they say,within you and outside of you
and the Kingdom of God in the sky and nowhere else.And far for him to walk is not required
is,and say here it is here,or;behold there. For the Kingdom of heaven is within you
is.And not understand themselves what a treasure to hide yourself.But I wonder
as such great riches are made in such poverty?! There are some
who will not taste death until they see the Great Kingdom.But you must first
get to know yourself. When you know yourself,then you will be known and accepted in SEVIS
him,and you know that you are children of the living Father, and through you,as through all creatures
his own HE himself is.But man is the main Creature.So,hide
God in himself? Show IT to the world and glorify himself and the Creator. When you know
themselves,then themselves to be true will find,and all the secrets that are hidden from you-open to you
If you don't know yourself,then you are in poverty and you are poverty. If not pony
toil beginning,it is impossible to understand and the end. And it is impossible to know that the wok
rug,if you don't know what's inside you,for not then knowing that
given to understand the mysteries of the Heavenly Father. And not to separate heaven from earth,for it is
the continuation of the earth and not separate ourselves from the earth,for you are a continuation of it,
and she's an extension of you. Therefore I say:you're everything the beginning and the end of everything. And when
gonna see it then you will see the Kingdom of God. Everything living and not living are represented
is invisibly connected to each other and all individually is a part of
one! Woe to those who border on earth commit and divides people.For the Sky
there are no boundaries,and the land should not be. Verily I say unto you:this division is for
enmity and strife the cause,whether the division by borders,or language,or
faith-all are one! And if inside of a divided people,the same hostility within
it will be darkness,and no rest for him.
Don't be afraid to get lost when you look for your way.Only the most strong method
HN on it.And those who left the flock,the shepherd loves more than any other,because only they
this is to find a cherished way.Not the fault of cattle that he is in the paddock is for
the corral the owner for it built.(how to build "laws"-the law,vithisma-
nenna word-PEN) People,in their shame,did something that is not capable of
no living thing:erected imprisoned himself,with his own hands and himself in her
mestil. And sorrow that his children are born in this prison.They grow up and don't know
other life but the lives of their fathers,and after seeing it can not,for the blind one hundred
if their eyes from the darkness of captivity. And they don't see anyone who'd lived in other
Goma,and therefore believe that their life is the only way of being
tion. For when the eyes have never seen light,then how do you know that you're in the darkness
Lay not up for yourselves treasures on earth,where moth and rust consume them and thieves polka
pivot and steal,but to the immortal treasures will look. And if the true
the strength you have,then your soul will leave the earthly desires and passions,with which she seemed to
mad,seething hitherto,and with them will go the false knowledge and judgment.
A man's life consisteth not in the abundance of his possessions. You do care and Suite
TES,many things, but one only need your soul to the Word of God is like seed
rooted in you, and their fruit brought. Verily I say unto you-who has all
lacking in himself,has nothing. And don't justify yourself to the execution
law:it is given to faith which does not fit the Word of God,in order to protect themselves
their crimes until you find true understanding. The commandments are given
for those who hearing hear and understand not,eyes looking but not seeing.
For the fulfillment of the law cannot impart life,does not bring grace, and not deeds
em righteous. This can only be true faith,working through Love.
YOU ONLY GIVE COMMANDMENT-LOVE! On this commandment depend all over the
the law and the prophets. And all the other commandments, her children,and she their mother. And if the mother
in you,all her children in you. And to know their names there is no need when they are inside
you live,and they are yours.I tell you:Love Your Father in Heaven all
thy heart,and with all your soul,and with all your mind. Not bogoboyashchyy
be,but God-loving. Because God loved you before,love you It
LOVE TRUE,a LOVE that has no fear,because Perfect Love isgone
em fear,because fear hath torment. Who fears is not made perfect in Love.
Love your neighbor as yourself. Because if you do not love your neighbor but
vorisi that love of the Almighty, that's a lie! Even if you are the first person in
the light and live according to the law of God,and tongues, talk of angels,and have any POS
knowledge and all faith,but do not have Love and hold a grudge,even the worm
ku is negligible,then you just become as sounding brass, and there is no benefit to your soul.
All good things is the external world,but it lights the way into the Kingdom
Heaven. But there is light within a person of light,and he illuminates the whole world. If he
light,he is darkness. And even if you give out what you have and the body will give
to be burned,but Love will not cover your works,you will not be from any
any benefit.You are children of love,love born,not whether you love and become must?!
But to become Love is to become equal to God,then God become! BECAUSE LOVE IS
GOD! And there's no other way into HIS Kingdom;with man this is impossible! To you,which
the ring Slawoborze pay,you Gods called:so that the Scripture said.
In truth, you are Gods,only your eyes closed and not awakened you,
to enter into his glory. And if Love will be in you,God in you will
you are in it. Perfect love and the Holy Spirit come together because they are United.
If you Love,and the Holy Spirit in you. If you have the Holy Spirit,and Pleasure
BB your perfect. Be pure as doves and wise as serpents. The light that
will save you find yourself inside yourself. And even if the pages of the GOSPEL is lost
will-you can restore them from the heart.

do Not look for attention. Live so, that nobody noticed. Live like you don't exist. Move so that your motion was not heard by anyone and that no one even suspected that you were here. Only then will you reach the explosion, which is called spirituality. Otherwise the ego will always, like a heavy stone slab, closing the possibility of an explosion. It will corrode you from the inside.
Why are you looking for attention? Because you are insecure, don't know who you are. But how do you know which one you are using for attention? You can't know who you are, looking in the mirror, and you can't know who you are, looking into the eyes of others — they appreciate you or criticize, these eyes are nothing more than mirrors: friendly, hostile, but it is only mirrors.
You have to know yourself directly, directly.
You have to go inside.
The ego lives on attention. It is a false phenomenon. Get it and exit it. And need only you to get out of it, as inside you will break a new quality of clarity, peace, surpassing all understanding, silence is natural and spontaneous silence of bliss will begin to manifest in you, the inner dance. And no other dance, and there is no other ecstasy.

Чезаре wrote:

do Not look for attention.
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And need only you to get out of it, as inside you will break a new quality of clarity, peace, surpassing all understanding, silence is natural and spontaneous silence of bliss will begin to manifest in you, the inner dance. And no other dance, and there is no other ecstasy.

Саир wrote:for Example, this is similar to Gurdjieff or, more likely, OSHO. Am I right?

actually we are all healthy. We just like to think of themselves as special and therefore invent problems. And this bring down the program in the body. That is to stay healthy, there is nothing to do - just to love your health! And turn your attention to more important tasks in your life, than to follow the work of the body. Why get into a well-oiled machine... Head we can understand a lot, but in practice only that stung, ached, we immediately forget about everything and start loving your sores...

All problems from the head, and the head to rewrite difficult. But it is possible!

you Have it all!

You have legs. With his feet you can:
-run
-jump
-play basketball, volleyball and soccer
-swim
-walk
-walking
-dance

You have hands. With your hands, you can:
-write
-draw
-sculpt
-stitching
-knitting
-cut
-dusting
-massage
-wash the Windows
-to prepare the cake
-iron
-scratching
-dance
-paint

You have eyes. With your eyes you can:
-to see the world
-watch for a loved one
-look at the sky
-watch the river or the sea
-look at the rainbow
watch movies
-consider the picture in the Museum
-look at the freckles passenger in the subway on the bench opposite
- read books about emotions and about life
-looking out the window of the porthole when you fly in a plane
to look at children who play on the Playground
-watch video-training Anya Degtyareva, for example) or Pucelik

You have ears. Using the ears, you can:
-listen to the music. Rock, classical - whatever music
-listen to audio training by Tony Robbins
to listen how he ignites the car engine when pushed pedal to the floor
-listen to tales Terry Prachet at night
to listen songs of your favorite friends in karaoke
- to listen to stories about her grandmother's distant youth, and to imagine the other world
-hear how the birds make all kinds of sounds in a tropical forest somewhere in Bali
or to hear the neighbors fight and then put up somewhere behind the wall

You have a mouth, tongue and taste buds. Using all of this possible:
-enjoy the cake
-enjoy the soup
-enjoy pure spring water
-and you can still talk
- and you can still talk motivational speech
-and you can still kiss and to know the taste of the lips of the man she loved. each time you learn anew, like the first time.

Corny? Just? You still need palaces, factories and ships? According to the labor Ministry in Russia in 2015 has a population of about 12 million people with disabilities. 12 million is almost one out of every eleven people. Just think about those numbers.

Among them are those who have never seen anything in my life, and will not see.
Those who can't hear. No chirping of crickets or the music of Mozart, nor even of songs Basta or Caste.
Those who wanted to run in the mornings, but I can't - because they have no legs or they are paralyzed. From birth, or as a result of injury.

Tomorrow, when you complain about life, government and parents - read again this post. And go, look, listen, breathe it, taste it, enjoy! Every moment, every sound. Every sunrise and sunset, every note in the music from the speakers, laptops, from street singers. You can learn to sing, dance, you can learn to cook any dish, you can get any skill!

You got it all.
You're already the richest man on earth.
You have a life and all the senses, hands and feet to live it with pleasure!

Live!

One of the main signs of happiness and harmony is the complete absence needs someone to prove something.

You think I'm for you to do their job be?

a Man runs in life,

Not sparing the legs.

Home – work,

Home – work,

Sentence.

Weekend respite

Vacation like the rest.

Old age pension, shortness of breath

But where to run?..

© Unknown author

The lives of most people is reminiscent of Groundhog day. Up early, stuck in traffic, eight hours of office slavery with a break for lunch, again late evening with a beer and TV or the Internet, drunk Friday, on weekends, camping with family and kids in the shopping centre... a Series of holidays from year to year, winter vacation, 14 and February 23, March 8, may holidays, Victory Day, summer, vacation, birthdays, New year and everything is new.

Social zombies live on the principle of "Consume, reproduce, Live for the Weekend" ("Consume, Reproduce, Live for the Weekend!"). Or "Consume, work, die", to speak crudely. Working life, then recreation of the monitor or in drunken company, or in the pursuit of a new purchase, a portion of sex or dose of entertainment, and the next morning work again, and so on.

They live in anticipation of leaving school, and then University or College, then the wedding, and before to spend the rest of his years in anticipation of retirement and the calculation of credit and mortgage payments – when you are born and grow up kids that will also wait until the end of the school, then the UNIVERSITY/College, when is the wedding, vyputatsya their mortgages, grow up their children who will also live in the aforementioned scenario... Unless you want to interrupt this existence of the movement toward the high goal.

Most of the universe is based on three pillars – the desire to dominate, sexual satisfaction and desire and satisfying to live. Power, sex and money is a "Holy Trinity" of modern nesoznavaemoi religion, three hook, not giving off "the Matrix", three of the parasite that rocks human energy, "petrol" System. These three elements as the three heads of the mythical snake, interrelated, mutually connected and supporting each other. The strengthening of one leads to a saturation of the other.

In one of the articles (http://kastaned.livejournal.com/55438.html) as antiprimerom we described Human-Potreblyat, according to the collective image and likeness of which lives the vast majority of white people. To oppose him we can Man-Creator, Man the producer, the Creator.

If the essence of Human life-Potreblyat is work, entertainment, reproduction and consumption, the Man-Creator is characterized as the name implies, the creation of new and useful information that improves, develops and harmonizes the world. Potreblyat is a man of the masses, of which the vast majority. Creators of a fraction, but they lead the world in motion. Potreblyat do not decide anything themselves, they follow the trends. Creators – trend set.

Man-Potreblyat only takes, uses and values. He's looking for a thrill in consumption (entertainment, sex, shopping, and demonstration of show-off). Man Creator himself creates values, and experiencing pleasure in creating something useful.

Man-Potreblyat sees happiness by achieving external goals of wealth accumulation, property acquisition, etc. Man Creator finds happiness in the building.

Man listens Potreblyat society with its programming, live in the reality created by TV and the media, thinks so, as they will prompt to a screen/monitor. Man Creator listens to himself first of all is your own strong reality, based on what he learned and saw.

Confidence, attitude and value system of the Person-Potreblyat rests on the reactions of others and the value of his property. I mean, I'm confident as long as you treat me well around, give me women (and some) if I have flat (and what) if I have a machine (and how), how prestigious my job, clothing what brands I dress on what device I'm talking to... etc.

Confidence, attitude and value system of the Person-Creator rests on the fact of who he is, what he can do what he does, what he creates is useful.

That is, the inner core of a Person-Creator is based on the mission level, and confidence Man-Potreblyat at the level of the property and the reactions of others, i.e., transient values. If it collapses, what are these values – the collapse and confidence.

Man-of Potreblyat work is needed to obtain a livelihood and entertainment. And to sell yourself and identify your personality it will be with how he spends leisure time. The Man-the Creator of the work (almost always) is a realization of his personal mission.

The meaning of Human life-Potreblyat: work for money, money for entertainment and the acquisition of Ponto, Ponto – for the sake of having sex and raising a sense of grandeur. Well, to reproduce the light of their own kind. What is the meaning of Human life-Creator? To create and leave behind something that will be useful and will survive it. To create and leave behind something that will make the world a better place.

Man-Potreblyat measure his dignity by the value of the dwelling, the brand name of your car, smartphone, suit. The dignity of the Person-Creator is measured by the usefulness of its Affairs – that he has made, what he built, what he had done, how much real use he had with his business.

In other words, Man-Potreblyat respects himself for what he is, and the Person-Creator – for what he does.

In our opinion, true self-worth is not the achievement of foreign policy goals, it is not the brand of the car, not the housing area, not branded clothes and fashionable devices, not the amount in the Bank account and not how many women you've had. True self-worth that will remain after the death of a person is the fruits of his creative labor.

Getting rid of Petroplasma as a way of life and the path to the Building passes through the understanding of social programming and as a result, through self-discovery, finding harmony with yourself, self-sufficiency, and the pursuit of happiness. Happiness comes to a man when he ceases to chase "ideals" and to impose the order, himself and takes things for what they are and live "in the moment".

"True courage consists not in heroic efforts to achieve external goals, and determined to go through the terrible experience of a collision with itself. As long as the individual does not find his true self in himself, any attempt to give meaning to life through manipulation in the outside world and the achievement of external goals will remain fruitless and ultimately doomed to failure quixotic" - said the psychologist and philosopher Stanislav Grof.

Here I don't want to be misunderstood. I'm not saying that "money is evil", "greed is a sin", we must abandon the earnings to go to the mountains for enlightenment, and to be poor, but righteous. Undoubtedly, money is very important, as they give a relative financial freedom. But making money is not the goal in a global sense. This provision in your life. In particular, this concerns cases where the earned money is worth nothing, they are produced to just pull on entertainment or unnecessary things. Purchasing and accumulation of "status" property is also not a goal, it potreblyadstvo.

The person putting his life's purpose to make as much as possible and buy expensive property, sooner or later will find themselves in a situation when he realizes that he has things, but there is no meaning of life. That all the gloss, glitz and glamour can't replace the feeling of happiness, joy, feelings that he lives for real. Looking good does not mean internal happiness, such a person will not feel satisfied, whatever wealth he wouldn't have surrounded. For this reason, many top businessmen, politicians and stars of show business trying to drown out your inner vacuum in alcohol, drugs, secular parties and sexual perversions, which I love to tell the media, giving it status activity for signs of "a beautiful life".

Simply put and in short, you should strive not to achieve success, and to ensure that your life had meaning.

Well, when a person is able to combine material wealth with inner satisfaction. But just for this, and need to ignore the pressure of society and look for yourself. How to come to creation? There are no universal recipes. The main thing – to listen to yourself, look, even if by trial and error, a niche, and do in life what you love, what you do best, and that benefits people.

No matter what you are building – design or build buildings, paint paintings, music or books, create another creative product, building good business, teach, or give advice is not important. The main thing – with love to create what you love and what you do best. Even if you do not come to the rescue with this income in the form of money, anyway, life with meaning, with a positive goal is much richer races potreblyaya for a new dose of pleasure, sex and show-off, a meaningful dull existence of ordinary people. This life, compared with the previous, takes on a completely different, bright colors.

the Definition of "Frame"


A frame is a subjective interpretation of objective reality. Objective reality is one, but a lot of people. Everyone has their own frame (its reality, its world view, its faith in the world). In the process of communication, we constantly receive ping (feedback) from other people. Sometimes when people are exchanging information, "pigout" each other, it turns out that their frames (their views of the world, subjective understanding of reality) are in conflict. And then, the winner is the person with the stronger frame. People with stronger belief in the correctness of the frame and showing a lower emotional response. A person with a weaker frame adapts. He takes the frame stronger. Then, the frame stronger person, becoming a common reality for both.

You can imagine it figuratively in the form of an electrical circuit that includes fuses. The role of electric current we will speak of social pressure, and the role of the fuse frames. When there is a conflict of frames, increasing the voltage (increasing social pressure), and after some time, the weakest fuses (frames) start to melt. Only the most persistent.

People with strong frames usually have the greatest social impact. Most people respond to them, and accepts their frame. That's why it's so important to have a sense of own core values.

Rule: a Strong frame is self-sufficient. The world will be for you to be what you think it is. Let's look at this in more detail. If you are complimented, praised, and you have high self esteem, you perceive absolutely fine. (Yes, I am). If you have low self esteem, you will not be able to react. Any compliment, praise in your address, you will be seen as a hypocrisy, as an attempt to manipulate you. In other words, your frame will determine your reaction. People will think of you what do you think about yourself.

There are even more amazing things. For example, if someone, to manipulate, tell you not a sincere compliment, and you perceive it as real, and if your frame is stronger, this will be a real compliment. The person said it to you himself believe in what he said. Also, if someone teases you and you are not hurt, you perceive it as a joke and yourself and just answer with a joke. However, on the other hand, if the teaser will hook you, make you feel vulnerable, you will give an appropriate response to your abuser and he will realize that he hit the target.

As long as you use a strong frame will be treated to the teaser as harmless joke and just joke back, it will be just a joke. For you and for the one who teases, and for all others. Your perspective, your interpretation of events is self executing prophecy. The world will always be for you what do you think he is.

Rule: When you have a strong frame, you determine your own value and your position in the group. You define who you are. Frames people are constantly in conflict with each other with varying degrees of tension. As social beings, we constantly play in the frame of the game (clash of frames) to determine who will take on the role of a person with a higher value. The stronger frame always wins. For example, two people simultaneously come to the fountain of water to drink. Be the first to drink of someone who knows what should be the first, the second will have to wait. Let's look at another example where fighting two frames. He and She:

Her: I'm super hot, and you have one guy who puts me on a pedestal and hoped to sleep with me. You will not be able to obtain, however, you can entertain me if you want.

HE: I HAVE a choice among women, I'm talking to you because women are usually silly, yet attractive, I'm just myself entertained. If you show me that you're a little smarter and different from other women for the better, then maybe the sequel. Now, I'm talking to you just because I'm having fun.

This is one example of opposing frames, which are not expressed in words.

People with high value and strong frame does not verbally discuss the questions: Whose frame is stronger? Whose value is higher? They just metasomal it through behavior. Now, whose frame is stronger you can tell by the following signs:

1. Who evaluates and who is trying to impress?

2. Who reacts emotionally to acceptance/rejection of their own behavior by others, and who is indifferent to what it will think.

3. Who is desperately trying to keep the conversation going, and who sets rules of communication.

4. Who loses at conversation self-confidence when confronted with a different idea of "what is cool" and who has not changed.

5. Who would remain same cheerful, if his companion was not here, and who would feel crappy without a companion?

Some people incorrectly imagine a war of frames. They think it's a kind of mental fight. But this is not the case. In fact, the need for constant control of the frame it is a reactive behavior. Having a strong frame is not to suppress others, to strive for the mastery. It's more complete control over their own behavior, feel comfortable with yourself and him and not to give their strength in order to win the approval of others.

Rule: We respond emotionally to those people who can influence what we feel (think about yourself) (often we need them more than they need us) When you demonstrate a strong emotional reaction in someone, thus you perceive him as a person with a higher value, you give away your power.

As we said earlier, we tend to ignore those people whom we perceive as people with less value and focus on those who we think are more valuable.

When you show too strong an emotional reaction towards someone, that thereby you show that you perceive this person as an important part of his reality, that he has for you is more valuable than you are.

That's why it's so important to live in their own reality, no one can give up power in order to dictate to you who you are. You will always have a strong frame. Idea about yourself based on some external stuff: who do you Tr*Khali that you can give to others, how can you entertain, your role, how people react to you in a day or in a certain situation — it's all about presentation. These things are not what you are.

Based on these things, you will never be able to understand who you are. You will spend your life on something that would be in the fight to regain back your power that you voluntarily gave. Your strength in your authenticity, in a deep sense of who you are. The question of who you are does not exist any strictly logical answer, this is not what is your best quality or skill. Authenticity is not something you can consciously think. When you are authentic, something "clicks" in your mind, and you realize "that's it" At this point there is stabilization of your emotional state, you can freely Express your personality, who you are and people will love you for it. People will accept your frame because you give them what they really want.

Your identity is the seed from which will grow then your thoughts will determine your behavior, which, in turn, will determine the response to you world. When you get feedback from the outside world, and your understanding of this feedback will tell you how to improve your personality, which will continue to affect your thoughts and behavior.

Tyler Durden (Owen Cook)
(fragment of the book "Blueprint")

Андрей Патрушев wrote:, to Better define the priorities and the "hollow" one goal.

Woe to him who loved only bodies, forms, visibility! Death will take away everything from him.
Learn to love Souls and you will find them again.

You know the words, any words is only a bad translation from the original. Everything happens in the language, which is not.
© Mikhail Shishkin

Be still, my soul, and let the sense
Of Her intuitive influence
Steal like the whisper of young rains
Upon thy bleak and barren plains.
By many a mental martyrdom
Our sterile souls come to Mary.
Who passeth through the surge and fire
At last shall win to his desire.
Thy grace sufficient for us still
To smite the arbiters of ill
Shall grant the exceeding great reward
To look upon Thee by the LORD.
Be still, my soul, assail whate'er!
Through Mary they shall not prevail;
Thou resigned And in peace await
Her peace at Her appointed date.
Amen.