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The book "Nonviolent communication"
http://www.koob.ru/rosenberg_m/language_of_life

Андрей Патрушев wrote:the Book "Nonviolent communication"

Interesting book! But this topic is many people are not interested in - not before. And the General theme of violence and therefore non-violence in our society, under a kind of taboo. Here's my thread on the Christian forum there is message a statement on this occasion, the doctor of psychological Sciences A. B. Orlov

Why many are not interested? Why taboo? Well, in General, a given percentage in our country of people whose profession is somehow connected with violence - it is logical... Just the job

Watched Matveeva training for NGOs. IMHO too simple and formulaic for the Russian people. Even Matveyev says, when he began to apply the principles to his wife, she was very nervous, thought he was above it mocks. In General, the principle certainly important for understanding.

Дмитрий__ wrote: ... Why the taboo? Well, in General, a given percentage in our country of people whose profession is somehow connected with violence - it is logical... Just the job

Well, where are the jobs? Violence surrounds us sovseh parties. If You read the book, you know that any comparison or statement of a person in a certain frame in fact there is violence, psychological, obviously.

And on account of the taboo go to the link and read. There is more than lucidly explained.

Энди wrote:I Watched the training Matveeva on NGOs. IMHO too simple and formulaic for the Russian people. Even Matveyev says, when he began to apply the principles to his wife, she was very nervous, thought he was above it mocks. ...

There is such a thing. And do not need training to watch. Just read in the book the examples given by the author and there is this feeling. And the problem here is this. It is just a technique, and even language, although the author says that the possible expansion to all ways of expression. In pure form it is applicable only in special circumstances, in a certain "frame": on reception at the psychotherapist or in some conflict situation that has gone terribly wrong and which requires special permission. And then it naturally fits into the context of the situation. But in all other it is necessary to slowly introduce to your lifestyle that she did not stand out from the crowd, was a natural part of our everyday life with other people. The only way. Need to find natural ways of implementing NGOs in our lives and to learn how to do it without thinking. Ie, I understand that most of us will need a "sandbox", the same frame is a specialty, which I have already said above, where we could practice.

If Oleg Matveev, I'm just his rasskazki about natural actualisatie read. What he says is just an example of what our lives fits into a certain mentality and set of intuitive moves outputs. As soon as we try to translate their communication on the "rails" of NGOs, but do not change, say the language of NLP, Deep structure of our language, it would just be perceived as the same violence is the need of the naturalness of the communication will not be satisfied. To think that Oleg just had to enter the wife in and say let's practice, to involve her in this. And maybe then there would be internal conflict and it is not vosprinyali a sneer.

Энди wrote:... But in principle certainly important for understanding.

Of course. No wonder that book titles that contain "Language of life". Although in the context of what I have said above it will be perceived somewhat biased.<